Dr. Annie Answers: Breastfeeding 101

Happy World Breastfeeding Week! Given the celebration of lactation we are in, I wanted to get out a quick and dirty, insider basics style guide to breastfeeding for mamas to be or current lactaters. It’s not comprehensive – for more details, please check out La Leche League, Kelly Mom and/or get a lactation consultation or talk with your own provider! These are just some hard-won tips of the trade.

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Breastfeeding is not easy, people. I have lots of family doctor and OBGYN mommy friends who have ALL said at one point or another, “this was so much harder than I though it would be!” … and of all people we should know what to expect! Some people certainly have an easier go of things than others – a challenge rather than the literal blood, sweat and (so many) tears battle other mamas fight through. But if it’s possible to get your baby that “liquid gold”, the health benefits are innumerable for you and babe alike. Also… No shaming here for the mamas who truly can’t make it work! Breast is best, but fed is a damn close second.

1) Initiation

Starting breastfeeding off right begins at birth. This is a super important part of breastfeeding going well with less difficulty. Many hospitals around the country have signed on to the “Baby-Friendly Hospital” guidelines to help mom and baby get an optimal start to breastfeeding and bonding, which is FANTASTIC! This includes (see Baby Friendly USA for more info) 10 items the hospital must comply with to show they are on board with supporting breastfeeding.

Probably the most important of all is recommendation #4: “Help mothers initiate breastfeeding within 1 hour of birth”.

This goes along with another important recommendation that isn’t always included in hospital protocols: The Magical or Golden Hour. Babies should be delivered and immediately placed naked, skin-to-skin with mom and kept that way for at LEAST 1 hour after birth. That means no bath first (there is actually very good evidence your baby should NOT be bathed in the hospital at all to keep their healthy skin flora), no shots, no eye ointment, and assessments done ON MOM unless there is an urgent medical concern that requires otherwise for the first hour of life.

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This is not the favorite policy of many Labor and Delivery floors because it delays some of the tasks needed to wrap up post-delivery care. As much as I love and hugely appreciate my L&D RN friends, this efficiency concern gets a big ol

The Magical Hour is profoundly helpful in establishing proper physiology, bonding and strong initiation of latch and breastfeeding and should be protected. It is truly magical. Most babies will, completely independently, literally crawl up mom to the breast and latch themselves properly with practically no intervention. Check out the YouTube video and hundreds of others if you don’t believe me.

There are, unfortunately, sometimes medical emergencies that make this not possible. That’s ok too! Do as close to this as you can. Mom can’t do skin-to-skin? Dad/partner/birth partner can do it. Baby needs to be monitored more closely? Get mom or dad touching them as soon as it’s medically safe. Once you can, do skin-to-skin for as many hours of the day as you can to catch up. Some wonderful providers have even started doing skin-to-skin in the OR for their cesarean birth patients when it is safe. Do your best!

2) After The First Latch, Lube it Up

After you get that initial magical latch in, the real fun starts. Bring in and use nipple oil (I prefer coconut oil, some use lanolin or compounded ones with both) after EVERY feed. Warm it gently between your fingers and slather it on there. Wipe off any excess gently with your breast pad before the next feed – but no need to wash off.

Whichever your choose (if you can, buy a small one of each and figure out which you like best), try to pick an organic one – we’re talking about some of the very first things to go into your baby’s mouth and gut. Spring for the best.

3) Ask for Help

If you don’t have a doula to personally help you, ask for help from the birth center. Most hospitals now have staff lactation specialists who can come help you. DON’T pass this up!!! Unless you’re an ultra experienced mom of multiple babes or lactation nurse yourself, have them check you out. Get comfortable with what to look for in a good latch and have them demonstrate with you and your actual baby several different positions.

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If you don’t have access to one right away, there is guaranteed to be an experienced nurse on the floor who can help and then schedule your lactation consult for after discharge. La Leche League website is a great place to find local support and resources for follow up.

4) Fuel Up

You’ll need to eat and drink a LOT for your body to make enough good milk. You should aim for 3-4 liters of water or other hydration daily. Keep a LARGE water receptacle by you at all times. Make sure your support person knows to refill when low. If you’re thirsty, you’re already over a quart of water low.

Breastfeeding burns up to 800 calories a day in the early days. As you’re starting out, you’ll want to eat like a teenage boy doing two-a-day practices in the middle of a growth spurt. All of a sudden, the crazy guy who speed-eats 100 hot dogs will seem somewhat reasonable. Go for it. If you want to be “healthier”, focus on getting in LOTS of fat and protein and limiting stuff with chemical additives or added sugar. Yes fat. You’ll burn it off later – don’t worry. No dieting of any kind until after 6 weeks when your milk is established. period.

5) Forget All Else

This is the last of the basics I’m gonna throw at you. For the first month (or two) of your baby’s life, breastfeeding should be your only task. If people want to come over? Great! they have to be people who 1) you’re ok with seeing your boob flopping around and 2) be willing to do chores with 3) no actual promise of holding or even touching the baby. Let everything else go – you eat, sleep and breastfeed.

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Breastfeeding on demand (which will feel like the full 24 hours of the day) is the best way to make sure your milk comes in and your baby has enough. Almost no one truly does not make enough milk if they initiate feeding on demand without formula (or nosy know-it-all in-law) interference. Let your baby’s health care provider guide you on whether there’s enough milk getting in. Your job isn’t to guesstimate volume of milk, it’s to put a boob in the baby’s mouth every time they seem hungry. TheMilkMeg sums it up:

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Happy Feeding Mamas!

Dr. Annie is a family doctor and mom of 2 with 1 on the way with 25 months personal breastfeeding experience and lots more hours helping others. Please add your questions and personal tips to comments below! Let’s help each other this week and all weeks!

Friday Faves: Rainy day “bored games”

If you’re like many of us East Coasters here lately, there are only so many interesting muddy puddles to be found in a rain-filled summer like ours.  With the weekend forecast looking something like this for um, the ENTIRE coast… we thought some of you parents out there might be in need of some rainy-day entertainment for the kids.

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 So,  here is our list of favorite rainy day family “bored” games when the weather takes you and your littles indoors, again.

Kristy’s picks

Chutes and Ladders

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This classic game is simple enough for the youngest players and nostalgic fun for the whole family. If you have a competitive guy, like I do, they’ll have so much fun laddering up to take the win!
 And, um, consider yourself warned if you have more than one competitive guy (or girl)…

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This game has us using our brains, laughing, and teaching our kids how to ask relevant and out of the box questions. We love it for the laugh factor, and the fact that there are moving parts that can be delegated amongst all the kids.

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One kid is on timer, one divvies out the winner’s coins, and the oldest plays the games. Our little one has the job of the main “yes, no, or maybe” regulator which adds an extra element of fun while teaching her how to spell and understand the word that is in play.

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Annie’s Picks

I’m not afraid to say that I may be a bit of a board game traditionalist. These oldies but goodies keep us (and more importantly) the kids coming back time and time again.

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Candyland

Everyone still plays this game for a reason. There are simple instructions for the youngest players,  bright colors, matching, and a little healthy family competition.  (The health of said competition may depend, however on your sibling situation…) “WHY DO I ALWAYS GET THE ICE CREAM?!?!” You know the feeling. We all do.

Uno

Another classic. UNO is awesome for one, because it is a card game with NO board to take up space in avalanche that is your board game cabinet. You’re welcome.

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UNO is also super educational and can easily be played at whatever level suit your child’s abilities. Players take turns matching one of their cards with the color or number card shown on the top of the deck, and first player out of cards wins. You can write your own rules with customizable wild cards that older kids love, too. 

Christiana’s Picks

I will just come straight out and say that both of my picks here are for NON-competitive games. As a mother to fiercely competitive brothers who turn life’s most mundane daily activities into a competition, some days I really just don’t need another “I WON!!” in my life. With that in mind…

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Hoot Owl Hoot

Hoot Owl Hoot is an adorable, award winning cooperative matching game that encourages players to work together instead of compete against each other to win.  I wasn’t sure if my boys would go for it, but BEHOLD! They love it. 

Our family has fun working together to “fly all the owls back to their nest” and our middle child loves the suspense of moving the sun toward the dawn as we race to the finish. As a bonus, this game can be played at two difficulty levels so it can grow with your children. Highly recommend!

Wooden Dominoes

I love the look and feel of this sweet wooden domino set. Our kids love matching, playing and building with these, and the illustrations keep even our little 18 month old engaged.

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These sets are durable, fun, and great for teaching animal names, as well as counting, hand-eye coordination, and word recognition. Perfect for a rainy day!

Oh, and muddy puddles aren’t all that bad either. 😉 Happy summer showers, friends!

 

 

(Almost) At Home with Christiana: An exercise in Gratitude

As many of you may or may not know, I have been absent from the blog for the past couple of weeks while my family relocated up the coast. It was a typical military move with more paperwork than there is time, and plenty of bumps in the road.

And I’ll be honest, when driving up the eastern seaboard on little to no sleep with all of your children and your dog and half of your household belongings shoved into very close quarters in one vehicle, gratitude is NOT the first word that comes to mind.  Especially when your kids get food poisoning halfway through. (Yes, really.)

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Not that I have (BY FAR) the hardest life, or that I am (BY FAR) as zen as the Dalai Lama, but I have been asked more than once how exactly I cope with the frequent and potentially stressful disruptions of our gypsy-esque military family lifestyle. And in that case, the first word that comes to mind actually is gratitude.

Charles Dickens may have said it best:

“Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty, not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some.” 

In almost any situation, I have learned (and am definitely STILL learning) to temper my feelings of stress or frustration by exercising conscious gratitude. Every day, there are SO many things that all of us have to be grateful for, but unless we stop and really think about them, it’s easy to lose sight of them among a busy day’s hectic or potentially stressful events. But making the effort is worth it. The rewards are big. Like UNIVERSALLY big.  I have found it easier not only to deal with my somewhat un-hinged, out-of-school, mid-move, energetic children in a way that I can be proud of, but to be a whole PERSON I am more proud of. In fact, an active practice in gratitude, I think, is an incredibly simple but profoundly effective way for all of us to be people that we are more proud of. 

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There are several ways to incorporate more gratitude into your life. And there are literally no rules. Whatever makes you feel it. You don’t have to be religious, you don’t have to be a yogi, you just have to be you. For me personally, I have found meditating to be a wonderful way to reflect on the many gifts in our lives, and if you’re able to, you can find a fantastic led meditation on gratitude from UC Berkeley here.

If meditation is not for you, or, if you’re in a time or place where meditation is not an option (like driving on I-95 with two vomiting children, in my case) you can actively walk your mind through some major gratitude points like those listed below.

And don’t overlook the basics in your life. Know that if you are expressing these conscious thoughts, you already have several marvelous gifts:

  • The gift of life itself, the most precious gift. Your life. The lives of your dearest, the lives of those who love and support you.light sunset people water
  • The countless conveniences that are available to us today that many of our ancestors did not have, and that people in many parts of our world still do not have. Air conditioning, clean drinking water, vehicles and safe passage, ample food. Machines, schools, libraries, electricity.person washing his hand
  • The work put in by thousands of people you’ve never met to create life as you know it. From ancestors that fought for freedoms we enjoy today, to those who grow and deliver our food, those who maintain our roads, vehicles, pipes, roofs and infrastructure, to innovators and inventors, to deployed and fallen military members and first responders.soldier-military-uniform-american.jpg
  • The particular things you enjoy in your daily life. The gift of a warm cup of coffee  in the morning, or the gift of your comfortable bed at night. A conversation with a friend. A treasured heirloom. A warm snuggle with a beloved pet, or a bedtime story with your child. bonding cold cozy dog

When we actively appreciate the things we already have, we are able to see the richness surrounding us, and inconveniences or problems seem smaller in the balance of our rich, grateful lives.

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. -Melody Beattie

fullsizeoutput_658Christiana is a Navy wife and mother of 3, attorney and former realtor, world traveler, home renovator and decorator, yogi, fitness enthusiast, and recipe and fine wine explorer.

Kristy, Au Naturale: “The Road to Serenity is Ahead” No Judgement Journaling

*Explicit language warning 😀 in this post…

IMG_9854I don’t feel like I am alone in this when I say that I have the best of intentions when it comes to making the time to write in my journal  all my journals. Mustering the courage to write my truth has always seemed too daunting a task. Faced with a blank page and SO MANY FEELINGS?

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But… where do I start? What do I say? Somehow, my therapy via written word always finds a way of brushing itself aside with “I don’t have the time right now. Maybe later” and “Its 2:38 am, I should sleep. Ok, now its 3:02, 3:15, I’ll totally fall asleep because I’m so tired.”

Or, the all time most frequent anti-journaling monster…..distraction.

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Why should I journal anyways?? Before I got myself on the journaling wagon, I read a bunch of information about the benefits of journaling in PsychCentral.com articles, books and even Huffington post. Why bother? Here’s a few reasons:

  1. Writing can be an impressive way of challenging the mind to find words that otherwise may not be used in your everyday speech. Thus, expanding your vocabulary and your brainpower. (higher IQ levels for the win)
  2. Writing can also help boost your memory by actively beckoning the mind to remember events or ideas and then recalling them to the present.
  3. Bringing you into a state of mindfulness, journaling can create a level of self-awareness of just how deeply an issue, situation, or an emotion is felt. It helps you truthfully live in these experiences, so that you may be able to relate more appropriately to others.  Empathizing can be a powerful tool in emotional development. Being in the present moment, as well, can help to subdue the gravity of worries of the past, or the fiery pangs of the anxious ones to come. In essence, it’s helping you figure out your sh*&, so you can learn handy tools in dealing with your well-being going forward, and stop lamenting the worries of yesterday. (see what I did there?? I never use “lamenting” when I’m speaking to people. BRAIN BOOST POINTS)
  4. Others benefits, according to the PsychCentral.com article, can be related to problem solving, clarity of thoughts and feelings that can help you to know yourself better, and improving your interpersonal relationship communication.
  5. Sleep!!

So I touched on sleep above. Err, lack of sleep, rather.  Has anyone had those glorious nights where your kids are happily nuzzled cozy in their beds and sleeping all night, yet YOU can’t sleep because your mind is running around anazlying and worrying about everything and anything?

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The process of journaling has also been found to decrease the stressors that typically affect one’s ability to rest peacefully through the healing power of RELEASE. Dr. James Pennebaker authors a book titled, Writing to Heal, in which he expresses the true art of unblocking emotional barriers and traumas. We can give them a voice to be heard, understood, and therefore not over analyzed in our minds. He explains that writing exercises can

leave you with a stronger sense of value in the world, and the ability to accept that life can be good–even when it is sometimes bad.

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I know all this and yet…. Think of an excuse, and I’ve said it to myself to avoid journaling my thoughts and emotions that cause me stress and at their worst, keep me from sleeping. Truth is, if I just took five minutes out of my day to write that “thing” that is sucking my awareness into it down on paper, the huge monstrosity of looped thought may just exit my brain altogether. And hopefully, for good.

Here is the kicker: Journaling is also an awesome lesson in self-discipline. And with self-discipline, practice makes perfect.

I’ve admittedly been highly unsuccessful at keeping up with any journal.  It wasn’t that “I sucked at journaling” self judgey much? I just felt so overwhelmed with it, that I never even began to try. Frustration would set in before any therapeutic benefit could be reached.  The answer was that I hadn’t yet been connected to a journal that fit my personality/emotional needs.

It was through a gift from a dear friend that changed my perspective on that feeling. Suddenly, I was given a daily theme, a dated logbook with meditations, and small practical guidance to look within myself.  I found the points above were key factors in my adherence to writing behaviors. Helpful and simple tools, like this one below, are very powerful.

So, going through these insightful motions of jotting down my physical, emotional, and psychological thoughts for that day and relating them to an intention was my Aha! moment. I loved it, and looked forward to the time in bed right before I fell asleep when I could journal.

So, to Recap what we have learned:

  1. Keeping a journal is a healthy and awesome way to release emotional blockages and enhance your super smartness (which you already have a level of that for reading our blog;))
  2. You’ll need to find a journal that excites you, enticing you to make the time to use it as the tool it can be.
  3. Start slow. Pick a theme or an emotion to narrow in on in order to really understand it.
  4. Write quickly, without judgement, and in a space that can feel private and safe.
  5. Enjoy the process of opening up to yourself. You might be surprised at how in tune you become with your inner workings.

I’ll use my current theme as an example.  It is related to one of my favorite books, the Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck The title speaks for itself. Buy it. Read it. Live it. You will thank me.

The Journal, also a gift, called “Zen as F*CK” A Journal For Practicing The Mindful Art of Not Giving A SH*T”, has me laughing like an awesomely carefree mad scientist and I am 514B7Y42PML._AC_US218_LOVING it. Each page can take less than 20 minutes. I find myself smiling when I am done, accomplished in my mindfulness task for that day.

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One of the factors that I never found in my research about writing therapy, was the amazing affect it has had on my hopefulness. In the last 2-3 months since beginning this practice, albeit not daily but almost, I am slowly rediscovering who I was always meant to be. I am finding a woman who knows how to be confident in feeling happy, kind, warm, and balanced. Oh, and hilarious. Definitely hilarious. (if you can’t laugh at yourself, right?) And to think, it wasn’t that I found any old journal and started writing.  This all started to happened because,

          a journal helped me find my way back to me.

-Psssst, and I totally dig this new me. She’s kinda awesome.

I hope you take this time to rediscover you through the art of writing. Because chances are, you’re freaking incredible. Have an amazing voyage!

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Kristy is a doula, massage therapist, mom of 2 and homesteader in Virginia.

Kristy, Au Naturale: Massage is not a Luxury

Show of hands on who is stressed about something right now? Literally, anything. Laundry, money, marriage, kids, work, blah blah blah blah.

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Close your eyes and feel your body. Feel where it is tense. Is it your shoulders? Your jaw? Your glutes? Is your brow furrowed or your posture slouched?

Now stop reading. Feel it. Take this time.

Now actively release those muscles and become aware that whenever we think about the simplest thing that causes us stress, our bodies produce this physiological response called tension. It is only the most practiced of us (aka, the Buddha) that can be fully aware of these muscular stresses, and actively manage them without the help or guidance of others.

This is exactly why I do not believe that we can call Massage Therapy a “luxury” any longer. We, as the human collective, are just too seemingly stressed out about our lives and the state of the world to recognize how it is affecting our bodes.

What we end up following, is a cycle of tension, and pain, then anxiety and decreased ability to cope with the pain.

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This has a dire effect on us as a whole being. The way our body responds to stress is three fold. It is physiological, emotional, and psychosocial. Most of us turn to medicine to manage the symptoms. Which has its benefits as well, but what if it were more simple than that?

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The Body is Smart

There are over 50 physiological responses to stress. Overwhelmingly and alarmingly, these responses effect our body systems’ ability to function properly. Below are descriptions of different bodily systems as they respond to stressors placed in our lives.

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The Answer is Antique

The power of touch and “healing” touch has been around for 5000 YEARS. Five freaking thousand years people have been using Massage Therapy and healing therapies to ease the symptoms of stress and illness, be it mental, emotional, or physiological. I say, if it ain’t broke……

Massage Therapy is the perfect antidote to most of the stressful situations in which we find ourselves on our daily grind. With frequent (at least once a month, if not every 6 weeks) Massage Therapy, one can benefit GREATLY.  Pictured below are just some of those benefits outlined.

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But what about our psychological health? It is no surprise that stress creates emotional problems such as anxiety, depression, family tension, short temperament, coping problems, and increase use of improper coping mechanisms. Massage therapy can help by increasing self worth, decreasing blood pressure (aka anxiety), boosting energy levels (aka helping with depression) improving sleep (hello resting awesome sleep face) and increasing ones awareness of their bodily tensions. This latter benefit is important so that we can understand our body’s response to stress, and address is as it presents itself before it becomes a reason to create a problem.

The fact is, no matter what you believe, that we are primitively designed to live in the moment. Most of the animal kingdom, when not hunting, do not spend their time worrying about taxes, relationships, promotions, etc.

They spend their leisurely time sleeping, cuddling, BEING.

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Massage Therapy is THIS. Not a luxury, but a primitive and necessary reminder that our bodies, brains, and souls need a time out. We need to allow ourselves an hour (or more) every once in a while to tune out from the world and unplug, and tune INTO ourselves.

As mothers, so often when we experience touch in our lives, someone wants something from us. The new baby needs to nurse. The toddler needs comfort. Our spouse needs…. another kind of comfort. Having someone touch you in a healing way is not a regular occurrence for most moms. For other women, whether you’re single or an empty-nester without the kids hanging off of you, touch might be nearly absent. That hour of nourishing touch is even more important in these stages of life.

So, whether you’ve never had a professional massage or it’s just been too long, now is the time to sit down with your budget and find $50-150 per month for this. We are talking about one Target run for a lot of us here. Only, instead of a few bags of (admittedly cute) stuff you were convinced you need, you now have invested in healing every aspect of your life.

You can’t pour from an empty bucket, people. Replenish your needs so you are better able to share yourself with those who matter to you.

18835945_10103938084553859_8628446883750688728_n Kristy is a married mom of 2, doula, massage therapist, and dedicated crossfitter with a passion of healing the human body and mind in Virginia.

Frugal Friday: Drugstore Cosmetic Finds

Ever had that feeling when you find EXACTLY what you want at the cosmetic counter or drugstore for way less than you thought it would cost?

No?!? 

Ok, so we usually don’t either. But oh man, when it happens…

Cosmetics shopping is one of those things that somehow seems to constantly disappoint. All that money spent, and everything fits in a bag the size of my socks?!? Great

Every. single. time.

Yet, in life, and this world we live in, there are plenty of things worth stressing over. (See Wednesday and Thursday’s posts if you need reminding.) Make-up just isn’t one of them. So when that $40 mascara dries out in a week, or when your toddler drops your fancy mineral powder (worth more than their whole outfit) and it decorates your bathroom floor?? Fughetaboutit. We got you. 

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Here are the Lockers to Littles’ tried-and-true, best-ever drugstore cosmetic finds. No disappointment, and no stress necessary in the case that toddler-cosmetic-sabotage should occur. (Well, no financial stress anyway. Good luck cleaning your tile… and your toddler for that matter.)

Christiana’s Picks

Maybelline Tattoo Studio Waterproof Eyebrow Gel

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Maybelline Tattoo Studio Waterproof Eyebrow Gel, $10.99

True story, I have only been using this product since the beginning of this summer, and I have already been asked about it more times than I can count. In short: you apply the tinted gel to to shape and color your brows for a natural looking, perfectly groomed, smudge-proof brow that legitimately stays put. Period. All day, in the pool, on a long run, or at the beach. Seriously, this stuff is amaze-balls. Eyebrows on fleek all summer long. Poolside mojito please! 

Jergens Natural Glow Instant Sun

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Jergens Instant Sun Sunless Tanning Mousse for Body, $12.99

As an active mom and outdoor enthusiast that still likes to get dressed up every now and then, this sunless tanning mousse has saved me from more than one serious fashion faux pax. I run (a lot) and as of late, most of it is outside in the summer sun. So despite my best sunscreen efforts, my racerback tan line is bad. news. bears. This miracle foam has literally taken my tan lines from sports bra to off-the-shoulder-black-tie in minutes. No messy slow-drying cream, and with an instant tint there are no streaks to fear. For only $12.99, I am a big fan of evenly bronzed décolletage for this summer’s return of the the off-the shoulder trend!

L’Oreal Telescopic Carbon Black Mascara

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L’Oreal Telescopic Carbon Black, $8.44

This little guy has been my go-to mascara for YEARS now. Every so often I get lured into trying a new fancy-looking mascara (that typically costs a LOT more) and I have yet to find one that compares to the clump-free, perfectly black, lengthened lashes I get with this product. At under $10, it has been and will remain a very affordable and permanent staple in my bag!

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Annie’s Picks

Dr. Pepper Lip Smacker

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This little bit of magic came out at some point in middle school and I have never found a chapstick with better natural color and artificial taste since. It gives just a little rosy red tint. Thank you also, Snapchat, for making the rest of my face as nice as my Dr.Pepper tinted lips.

Maybelline MasterPrecise ink Metallic Liquid Liner

Maybelline New York Master Precise Ink Metallic Liquid Liner, Black Comet, 0.06 Fluid Ounce

I took this with me on vacation to a wedding in Hawaii where I knew there would be swimming and sweating followed immediately by dressed up events. It did not budge, my eyes stayed glam through the whole day and night. It then washed right off with my (super awesome Nerium) facewash when I was done.

Revlon ColorStay Overtime Lipcolor

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Revlon ColorStay Overtime Lipcolor, Stay Currant, $10.49

Don’t we all want pretty, perfectly shaded lips that last through long work days, evenings of mommy-kisses, and dare I say a date-night?! Let’s get crazy, people. ColorStay Lipstick actually stays! Between patients and parenting, this doctor mom appreciates a lip color that only needs to go on once. Work smarter, not harder! (Even better, you can get it on the cheap!)

Margo’s Picks

NYX Under-Eye Concealer for Dark Circles

If you have olive-toned skin like me, one of the things you might battle is under-eye darkness.  I have found that sometimes the only thing I need to walk out the door is GOOD under-eye concealer, a bit of mascara and some lipstick.  But, not all under-eye concealer is created equal!

In comes NYX.  It’s usually between $5 and $6, it’s in a teeny tiny container, but it will last for a LONG time.  It covers well and comes in awesome natural colors.

Revlon Matte Lipstick

See Annie’s above pick that’s Revlon ColorStay Overtime Lipcolor?  I use that AND this Revlon Matte Lipstick together.  Why, you ask?  Because I love the staying power of the ColorStay, but I want a matte color.  So, I put the ColorStay on first, and then, while it’s still wet, I overlay the Matte Lipstick in my favorite color.

Voila!  It stays ALL day (no lie) and it’s the color style and type that I like best on me.  (Make sure you let it dry thoroughly before eating and drinking, though, otherwise, you’ll get it on your cup!)

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That’s a wrap! Your wallet and killer summer looks thank you. Happy Frugal Friday from the LtoL crew!

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Friday Funnies: Sh*t Moms Say

Before we were parents, we had this editorial Stepford-wife, blissful image of what it was going to be like. The kids would be clean and organized and I would gently teach them the ways of the world in a calm and reasonable voice. They would dote on me as much as I doted on them..and all would be…well cuteness and rainbows.

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Welp, welcome to the real world, folks. This is a little compilation of some of the best moments of “I Never Thought I’d Say….” and then parenthood rolled up like…

TOP 20 CRAZIEST THINGS TO COME OUT OF OUR MOMMY MOUTHS:

  1. “Guys, poop is not finger paint”  <cue barf noises>

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  2. “Do NOT wrap that extension cord around your neck.” or your sister’s, or the dog’s….why do they want to strangle themselves all. the. time??

  3. “Wow, I never knew that your best friend could single handedly defeat a colossal squid…..NO, I totally BELIEVE YOU.” <serious face>

  4. “No hunting chickens with the garden hose” please. 

  5. “Do you need a snacky-poo?” in some weird alien baby voice, who even am I??

  6.  “No touching butt-holes at the dinner table” because “no touching butt-holes ever” became unattainable at some point…

  7. “Oh God. Who did you just call?”

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  8. “Don’t worry about how bad my breath is, mama needs a hug!”

  9. “Did you just wash your hands in my water glass?!”

  10. “Boys! Use. Toilet paper.”

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  11. “An octopus does not have eight testicles” it’s tentacles, dear. 
  12. “Daddy was just helping mommy stretch” ahem…

  13. “GRAPES. OUT. OF. YOUR nose !” and, basically replace grapes with any object roughly nostril sized – what is with this??

  14. “No lightsabers at the table!”

  15. “Did you fart or is that your sister’s diaper?”

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  16. “Don’t wave your vulva at your sister!” because when you decide to use correct anatomical terms with your kids, you better stick with it.

  17. “We don’t poop in other people’s yards!” oh potty training…

  18. “Good Lord kid, quit eating the money.” there goes your college fund…

  19. “No coloring on the baby” or biting, or spitting, or feeding nuts to… just don’t touch the baby FFS!!

And by far, the craziest thing to come out of any of our mouths….

20. “Let’s have another baby”. BAhahahhahahahahhah!!

There’s no logic to it.

 

Oh yeah, that’s why!

Happy Friday peeps!!