There are things you say to me on a daily basis that I wish I could make nationwide public service announcements about in the midst of prime-time TV. We are early in our blog-adventure, but I’m just gonna put these out there in the hopes that someday they’ll be shared widely (as a close second option to a televised career).
Things you don’t need to apologize for
In my opinion, women apologize out of habit for WAY too much sh&* anyway (I’m guilty too), and I get a fair amount of apologies from men too, but these? Let them leave your mind.
- Women of the world, I could not care less if your legs are shaved. Not a bit. Not at all. Nor do other doctors. Unless you’re seeing a gynecologist, the rest of us also see men – know what? Men NEVER say, “sorry, I didn’t shave my [insert any body part, ever]”, when they come in to get checked out. You have enough to worry about and apologize for – let this one go.
- Same goes for your choice of pubic hair management. There’s a whole large part of the population that wouldn’t ever consider waxing/shaving/electrolysis and you know what? We feel fine about caring for them too.
- While we’re here – no apologizing for menstruating!! We have seen blood before. Menstrual blood. Body blood. Birthing blood. All the bloods. It doesn’t phase us a bit – or else we would have chosen another profession.
- If you cry in the office, it’s because you need help and you do NOT need to apologize for those tears, ever. If you cry, it’s because you felt comfortable enough with me as a provider that you could open up about what is REALLY bothering you – whether physical, mental or emotional. That is one of the greatest gifts to a primary care provider. That is our goal. No apologies for that.
- Having ear wax. We all do. We can clean it out. Don’t use q-tips to clean it, they only make it worse. (But if you do have to use a q-tip, always lubricate it with olive oil or vaseline!)
Exercise and diet
I’m gonna post in detail about this later. The bottom line here is: you can get an excellent workout in 12 minutes with high intensity interval training. And almost no one should ever be on a low-fat diet*. The low-fat diet trend was WRONG. It is BAD for you. Fat does not lead to high cholesterol or heart disease if it’s the right kind of fat. Know what does? Sugar. What’s worse for you: Bacon or Skittles?? I bet some people would guess the Bacon. Wrong.
A picture is worth 1000 words
If you have a rash that comes and goes – take a picture! If your kid is walking funny but only sometimes – video it! Take notes of what’s going on and bring them. Your recollections and descriptions may or may not be useful, but those are.
A list of all your questions is so helpful for organizing what to get to. However, you should know that depending on where your provider works, they may have NO choice in how long your appointment is. Many institutions do not allow us longer than 15 or 20 minutes total – that includes the 5 minutes it takes you to check in and have vital signs done. So, while we for sure want to fix everything (trust me, that’s why we picked this job!), we just don’t have time. We may have to choose some things for now and some for later. Insurance also regulates now what can be done at a “Physical” or “Wellness visit” and most will not let us address ‘problems’, ONLY ‘preventive care’ at those appointments. It is not our choice. We can’t “change the coding”, or we could lose our licenses. Talk to your lawmakers about this!!!
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