Ever have random medical questions you’d love to *informally* run by a doctor? What about questions you’d like to run by a real estate agent? Interior decorator? Financial advisor? Marketing expert? Massage therapist? Doula? Lawyer? Well, you just hit that jack-pot, my friend. We are Annie, Christiana, Kristy and Margo. Four best friends from the locker-days of high school now raising a total of 9 little ones who have decided to combine our group’s knowledge into a super awesome, sometimes absurd, and hopefully helpful blog. You get to meet me first. I am Annie, a married family physician in the Sacramento area and mom of 2 little girls, ages 3 and 5. I’ll be your mostly medical themed consultant here. This is a little intro to me and how this blog was born.
Let me set the scene for you: 9pm last Thursday, I have just FINALLY gotten my 2 sick little girls to sleep. I walk into my bathroom and slug back the last sip of my second glass of wine (because it was that kind of day). After a moment of consideration, I squat down, reach up into my hoo-ha, grab hold of my IUD strings and yank. Looking back, this moment is a pretty perfect cameo of my life and decision making at this moment, living my #doctormommyadventures.
How did I get to this point?
The big picture is that I recently was stuck home with sick kiddos for several days on end. I was led (cattle prod style) by the universe to spend a chunk of this time soul-searching during my “down time” (aka when I put the girls in front of a video for a bit). I decided to join a new business as a side job, rework how I was spending family time and go ahead and start the blog I had been talking about writing for years. Where the universe gives me opportunities, I am going for it! BOOMSHAKALAKA!!
So, why attempt to yank my own IUD out at 9pm on a Thursday? I had spent some time organizing and setting aside the 18-24 month clothes my 3 year old had grown out of the day before. My husband (we’ll call him hubby pants, or HP) and I had been debating having baby #3 for almost a year and had just had a perfectly civil conversation about how it was probably best to keep our nice, simple life and also another kid would be financially difficult and we should just be done. However, as I was packing those tiny outfits away, I broke down in full-blown ugly sobs. My soul felt like it was dy. ing. Message from the universe received, loud and clear, I need another baby. Being the impatient pragmatist that I am, it of course seemed the most reasonable to just take out my own IUD right then and there. But I couldn’t, because my kids were in the next room and I didn’t want them to walk in and ask really awkward questions.
Lesson one for all you readers: even really smart doctors (not to toot my own horn here) sometimes make bad decisions about their own health. That doesn’t mean they don’t know what they’re talking about, just that they are human too. I think that’s an important premise to my doctor-mommy blog advice.
I met my husband in college. First day of college. First class.
He was pre-med from age 8 and after checking into a few other career options, I decided that worked for me too. I was a whiz at multiple choice exams, I loved science but I wanted to work with people more than test tubes. I worked my buns off and got into UCSF School of Medicine where I got to study with some of the smartest people in. the. world. As I did my 4 years of rotations, I could see myself in all different fields, but most loved women’s health and pediatrics. Lo and behold, my final rotation was in Family Medicine, where you get to do a little bit of everything! I was hooked. Off hubs and I went to University of Utah for 3 years of Family and Community Medicine Residency. I got grueling and thorough and awesome training in, well, everything. We had a baby. I got a job out of residency doing tons of women’s health, obstetrics, pediatrics and all the things I loved. We had another baby. Life was good.
And then, HP decided he needed to go back to fellowship (aka extra doctor specialty training where you get paid minimum wage). Twice. So my fulfilling career transformed into finding primary care jobs wherever his training took us and being a mom. One of my favorite activities became answering health questions from friends and family members. I had lost my long-term relationships with patients, but these people gave me that connection back. In living my life and looking up information about topics I didn’t get to talk about with patients in a formal clinic setting, I learned a ton more about nutrition, fitness, fertility, and parenting. It fulfilled that part of my career that was missing. I started thinking… I should just write a blog about this stuff so all the information is in one place. I thought… well, there are a lot of mommy and doctor blogs out there, how am I going to really add to the world. Then, boom! It hit me! Women working together and supporting each other always make bigger, better things happen. I texted our group text – which is my lifeline, in a literal sense, through all of life’s joys and challenges since group texting became a thing – and they were in. Instantly.
Here we are world! Get ready for some ass-kicking advice and fun!!!!
In case you’re wondering, I couldn’t get enough of a grip on those IUD strings to get it out… I guess I’ll have to ask a doctor to do it after all 😉
Photo Credit: All the beautiful shots above are from Fiona Margo Photography Website Here . The amateur ones are my own 😀